Friday, August 19, 2011

Real Strength

Yesterday my friend Bev called. She wanted to know if she could kidnap me for the day. I said, Heck yeah! And so off we went.

Bev is one of the busiest women I know these days. She's mom to six adult kids, has a zillion grandkids, and has her mother living with her. Bev's mom is in the middle stages of Alzheimer's disease and requires 24/7 monitoring.

I can't imagine what it must be like to be on that kind of schedule. Bev's mom actually follows her into the bathroom some days....she needs constant reassurance and attention. As does Bev's husband and family, five chickens, two mini daschunds, and one border collie puppy.


Overall, although stressed, somehow Bev manages to keep her head above water and her sense of humor intact. But then there's days when her life's stresses accumulate and she knows that she needs a hall pass to spend a whole day doing whatever she wants.

Lucky me, she always opts to take me along once she's arranged care for her mother.

We headed out in the morning, grabbed a Starbucks, and then pointed her car south on I-5. It was a beautiful sunny day, we were chattering non-stop, and for just a few hours, I could see her cares and worries just melt away.

Later that afternoon as she pulled up into my driveway, I hopped out of the car and hugged her.

What an amazing woman. I'm so lucky to be her friend.

Image found here.


annie said...

Bev is also lucky to have you as a friend. I cannot imagine having all her responsibilities and coping. She is a brave woman, bless her.

ShEiLa said...

Alzheimer's has to be one of the hardest things to deal with... as the patient and the care giver. 24/7 is tough... I am glad you could be there for her and make the worries melt away.


Anonymous said...

Even with Sjogren, we can be here for our family and friend. They have us and we have them ! You're both lucky to have each others.